Pagan, I try to answer your question the best I can. If you look at the plant you're
referring to. If you can blow it up a bit, the stake on the right is the main top. The one in the back and the one on the left are laterals that came of the main cola. As they get bigger then the main cola, bend it down even with the main cola. When the tops start going up to the light. bend it back down. You find that it is easier to bend them while you give it a little twist to the left or right. Where ever is the most room. You will see the fan leaf sticking straight up. I trim it and the coresponding leaf off. As the new growth get bigger keep bending it even with the rest. I don't do any defoaling 'till just before I flip tem to 12/12. And as you know, I don't top them ever. I be more then happy to answer all your questions.