Hi all, thanks for all your input. With your help I believe the original problem has been solved. This post is a conclusion to help anyone who may experience similar problems. (I also have a new question regarding the final picture of damage leaves)
Corrections for future grows:
1. add perlite to coco (don't grow in 100% coco)
2. carefully monitor coco, and only water when pot begins to dry out
3. I realize this is a given to most folks, but not to a coco newbie, despite years experience in 6" rockwool.
It appears the mom's are better - are no longer duds. over half the veg plants are better (and the other half on the fence), and the girls in flower are flowering, see pictures below.
1. Moms (pic 1): pure coco in 1gal smart pots. status: recovered. achieved by not watering daily. I allowed the pots to dry out for a few days before watering again, and at that point I flushed and I've been running weak nutrient solution 400ppm since. after an 18 hour light cycle they start to get dry, I'm watering just 1/day.
2. Veg plants (pic 2): same
3. Flower plants (picture 3): same - but these still look stunted. the pistols look good and I hope they'll pack on some weight.
4. new question: picture 4: weird discolored leaves - can't find any match on chart of deficiency's (pic 5). this came off of an auto white widow, wk 3 of flower. some of its sisters have the same issue. any ideas?