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Apologies to the community

God my nerdy little heart loved that last line! Thanks MrFurley! Wouldnt be surprised if he made another account but this whole incident is telling me to take care of myself for a while so i'll check messages if i can and reply to people who @me but will refrain from trying to help for a bit until life calms down for me and i can keep my attitude in check.
 
CaptainWiese91 I am sorry to hear that man. Please do try and take care of yourself as i really value your input and humor. I too am out of weed which may be part of the problem as well but i would hate to hear that something happened to you or not to hear from you at all. I'm sorry that i dont know how to help you with your PTSD but i do want you to know that i care even though i dont know you that well. I know that you may think that these are just words and i can only imagine how it effects you but i know what it is like to suffer and it makes me sad to hear that someone is suffering. That doesnt mean i dont want to hear it btw, that means i wish i could help but am completely unqualified to give advice. I'll be glad to listen if you need someone to talk to but i may not be able to do much more than that. Demons of the mind are strong and cunning. I know that much too.
 
Iv had to take more then one break over the years here. the first was when I was going through my divorce, things got ugly in my head and due to what was going on I had to tear my grow down mid flower. I just hung out and read, I had no advice to give mainly because I wasn't participating in growing at the time, this is the first time I've mentioned this on the Forum and it's been finalized for 2 years. The second was this spring, I just kind of got burned out and need to focus on my plant, I find myself helping less often than I used to and it kind of breaks my heart but it's needed for my headspace so I understand</>
 
I'd like to try n talk ya into stayin but I get it. & right back atcha for steppin up for your part (in your mind anyways- I didn't think you were in the wrong at all- I woulda blasted him on the way to PM too)
& here's a Gibbs head slap for the comment 'If you all want me to come back' Nobody wants you to leave. & if they'll let me stick around you KNOW you're always welcome!!
 
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I understand my man. I'm not quitting, just need some time to deal with life. Still going to check messages and will reply if someone asks me but i need to stop feeling as if i have to be the one to help for my own sanity. It's not fair to Sirius either for me to keep getting people banned and starting shit. When i feel more calm and can better keep my attitude in check i'll be back in full. Sometimes you gotta take care of yourself before you can help others.
 
I'm in the same mode right now and have been for a bit. I'm not reaching out near as often to offer help but I'm still around to give it when asked and participate in the threads that are less controversial. It seems like every other post creates an argument and I just don't feel like fighting usually.

Mark Twain — 'Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.'
 
We're almost all doing it. Just step back and let someone else step in and help, there are plenty of people still actively helping everyday.
 
Well I've been here for about 5 wks or so now and I will admit when my very first post didn't much of a response and 1 or 2 of the responses I did get wasn't very positive I did think to myself what sort of forum is this? I asked for help? And I will admit I was a little hurt but do you know what? I stuck it out here and I've come to understand why some here reply the way they do. I've seen posts where even I've thought why the fuck are you asking that?
I've come to respect the views, opinions and advice that is given by all here but there's one post here by that really opened my eyes and made me think and I found it quite inspirational. That post was by AccidentalGardener and it was the original from a newb to a newb. So thank you for that.
Tersky We all say and do things when we may not necessarily be in the right frame of mind to do so, that's just part of who we are as people but I for one respect your input when replying and even I can see why you reply in the way you do I'm also pretty sure others feel the same. I feel you are well respected here by all who've stuck around long enough to know what this site and the people in it are about and your a valued person here so don't dissapear for too long.

​​​​​​​Ps AccidentalGardener's post should be an inspirational sticky for the newbs
 
Here's my take: There are only a VERY few of the Old Guards left, since this forum was started. Tersky is one of them. This wonderful forum and GWE provide NECESSARY guidance for FREE. The VAST majority of people who visit and subscribe are here for but a brief moment of time. They get what they want and abandon ship. Who was it, that made the term "askholes"? It's a perfect fit for many. Not all but many.

Tersky, I request you cut yourself some slack, take a few long, deep draws from whatever Cannabis delivery system you use and come back ready to inform.:D
 
Tersky
Holy crap that made me cry.....
this message means a lot to me ! I wish my family or friends would take the time to make that kind of message!
I really wish I could meet you in person and have a chat with you. You seem like a really nice guy! And I mean that from my heart !
Just having you, giving me the opportunity to talk with you, is more than my whole family ever did. Shit man....
can’t even type any word because my keyboard on the phone is full of tears..
I appreciate it ! I fully understand this ptsd is some hard shit to listen too😣 And I don’t expect nothing. But the way you are as I know you from here. You are a good person ! And all these posts on this thread, say that you have a heart.
Embrace it!
I was 19 on my first tour to Afghanistan in Helmand province, and I only took the second tour and the third because I didn’t know what to do.
Now? I’m sick on my 8th year now, and I have to live with it. It so damn hard..

Anyway sorry for the long reply. I really appreciate your honesty and your helpfulness! Kind and loving people is hard to find today.
“Be flexible, keep calm and carry on“ was my infantry platoon motto, and even that I can’t keep anymore.
Thanks for the loving words! Means the whole world to me right now ❤️
 
I appreciate your feedback. I sometimes dont realize how cranky i can seem but am glad you stuck it out. My intention is never to drive people away, though i seem to be good at it. Just another confirmation that it is time to take a breather and come back when i get my head sorted. I know we all make mistakes and i am no exception. I am sorry if i made you feel unwelcome and will try and be more patient not just for you but all the new growers in the future.
 
Thanks for that BR2K. I dont think i am being unreasonably hard on myself. Im not like bummed to be honest. I am a little disappointed in my actions but more so concerned at how i am affecting the community. I have been proud of this community for being civil compared to most social media and yet recently i have gone around and been less than compassionate to others, to put it nicely. I'm not going to lose sleep over this incident but it made me realize that i have been more asshole and less helpful lately and thats not who i want to be. Just need a mental health break i suppose. All my life i have been the one to fix things for others so i feel like i HAVE to help at times which is totally false. There are other very competent growers on here that can answer questions as well and i need to stop trying to control things... I dont hate myself for it or anything. Just gave me a reality check.
 
Almost midnight here and these two are going outside for the night for some protection for the house !
My Rottweiler and my Dobermann puppy on 1 year.
thanks for all the nice input in this thread and for the nice kindness and loving atmosphere in this forum 🙏🏻
Stay safe! I love you all !
 

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Have a peaceful sleep CaptainWiese91 lord knows we all need some really peaceful dreams and help resting. Man what a day.
 
I bet I’m getting 2 hours of sleep, then waking up in cold sweat and hammering my pillow because of the nightmares...
but yea what a day.

But still I’m grateful for all of you in here ! Or else I wouldn’t keep coming online and chatting with you all ❤️
 
Tersky my dear sir........how very kind you are blessings to you and i'm so very very sorry this went the way it did. I feel as bad about seeing you taking the crap as i can't wrap my head around it so i'm just so sorry this took place.

And to all who witnessed this i was the one who was short and to the point with my comment. I am the one who was not answering with a " soft touch" i am not a coddler but i also will give the benefit of the doubt and say i'm wrong when i'm wrong. I do not want to harbor bad feelings or be walking on egg shells. This is a Growing Weed site and i don't give BS info. I knew i was the first to approach this post, i saw many lookers maybe new folks and no one made a comment to help with his grow so i did. My approach was not off mark but he did not like the way i said what i said. Some will be that way it's OK just don't get nasty or make violent comments.

I'm apologizing for this event taking place and to dear Tersky for taking the brunt of the shit storm. I'm so very sorry
 
No problems my dear. I wasn't trying to put you on blast or anything. I am just as guilty as you for not coddling however i could see both sides and dont blame you for anything. I extended an olive branch to try and calm things down which he initially took and then kept going off on you and i couldnt just sit back and watch. I could have walked away but i chose to engage so dont feel bad. I can take it. It was a great cathartic release to be honest lol. Been bottling up shit for a while and it leaks every once and a while but this dude shook the bottle and popped the top. Growing up i was ruled by anger which is why i try to be more compassionate tho you couldnt tell recently. I dont fault you nor do i wish you to believe that i dont respect you because i do.
 
Your appology is much appreciated but It's ok you didn't make me feel unwelcome and gave me a little kick I needed to do more research plus I probably took a little more offence than I should have but I too was not in a good frame of mind at the time having just found my mother has cancer (the reason I started this grow) It made me behave a little irrationally and jump into things and not think things through properly which caused a whole heap of problems for me. Anyway it's all good and like I said I have a lot of respect for you and the knowledge you bring to this great site.
 
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